Let The Children Come ~ Be An Example

So far in this series, we’ve emphasized the importance of praying for our children, how to teach our kids about God, how to encourage them to pray and tips to teach them God’s Word. Today, we’re concluding this series with one of the most important ways we can lead our children to Jesus – by living lives that are a testimony of God’s grace.

“In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

We can pray all day for our children and diligently teach them the Bible, but all that won’t make a difference, if our kids don’t see us practicing what we teach them. We can teach them that God’s given us everything we need, but if they see us being discontent and grumbling about what little we have, what are they taking away from it?

Even as babies, our kids imitate us – they smile, wave their hands and learn to clap, after seeing us do the same. Toddlers learn new words and mannerisms by observing us. If they see us reading the Bible and praying on a regular basis, won’t they want to do the same?

Your children will become who you are; so be who you want them to be. ~ Anonymous

If I want my kids to grow up to be men who’ll follow God’s will in their lives and have a steadily growing relationship with Him, then I need to do the same. My kids need to see God working in me. They need to see the evidence of God’s grace in my daily life.

There was no better teacher on this earth than Jesus Himself. He preached the truth and it was evident in His own life. We too should strive to live in obedience to God’s Word because our lives will impress our kids. It’s up to us to to model faith that will either draw our kids closer to God or drag them away from Him.

Your hunger for God can create an appetite in your children. ~ The Love & Respect Experience

Do our kids see us hunger and thirst for God? Do we place an importance on God in our daily lives? Or do we relegate Him to Sundays in church? Do our kids see us consistent in our prayer lives, or do they see us flipping through the Bible in a hurry just once or twice a week?

A few ways we can build up an appetite for God in our kids’ lives:

  • Read your Bible regularly – with your kids, to them or in front of them.
  • Pray with them as often as you can. I pray with the kids in the morning, and we have a family prayer at night. Include meal times and sickness, and you’ve got quite a few opportunities to pray with your kids.
  • Share prayer requests with your kids. We tell the kids when someone is ill and they need prayer. They often surprise us with a spontaneous prayer (filled with child-like faith) that really tugs at our heart strings.
  • Worship with your children. I guess all children love music. Use every opportunity you can to play a worship DVD, a YouTube video or gospel music in your car and let the children worship God with you.
  • Share with them your weaknesses and boast of God’s strength. We all have days when we snap at the kids… use that opportunity to apologize to them and share how you too need God’s grace to control your anger.
  • Practice thanksgiving. Thank God for little things everyday, encourage your kids to do the same and soon they’ll realize that every good gift is from God.
  • Give generously. I learnt the importance of giving my tithe, supporting missionaries and helping the poor only because I saw my mother doing the same.
  • Involve the kids in your ministry if possible. Whether you’re praying for a friend, leading a Bible study or singing in the choir, let the kids see you ministering to others.
  • Remain rooted in your faith. Our kids need to know that we’ll continue to trust God no matter what. Let them know that even in the most difficult circumstances, your faith in God remains firm.
  • Live a life of integrity. Nothing throws older children off more than a christian parent who doesn’t practice the principles outlined in the Bible.
  • Model Christ. This is a biggie. No human on earth can be just like Jesus, but we can try. Start with the fruit of the Spirit and strive to be a role model for your kids.

Further reading:

One important aspect I haven’t covered in this series is teaching our kids about salvation. My husband and I are still in the process of teaching our sons about the concept of sin and their need for redemption; and we’ve got a long way to go. I request you to read this post by a fellow blogger who used to be a children’s pastor. She’s written an entire series on salvation for kids – be sure to check it out here.

Closing thoughts:

This series was aimed to share with you, things that worked for our family. This is not a to-do list, but merely suggestions. Our ultimate guide is the Bible, and our mentor is God Himself. I pray that you’ll let God teach you how to lead your children to Him. And lastly, I admit that in spite of all my good intentions, I fail everyday in leading my children to Christ. I can only pray that God will work in our children’s hearts and our meager efforts will one day bear fruit for His glory.

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Counting My Blessings: 511 to 531

“All you have made will praise you, O Lord; your saints will extol you.
They will tell of the glory of your kingdom and speak of your might,
so that all men may know of your mighty acts…” (Psalm 145:10-12a)

A Gift Fixed, Folded, Freckled

511. A broken helicopter.
512. A washcloth.
513. A puppy.

3 Gifts in Conversation

514. Laughing together.
515. Fears revealed.
516. Honest opinions.

3 Gifts in Salvation

517. Undeserved forgiveness.
518. Hope for a better tomorrow.
519. An eternal home.

3 Gifts in Information

520. Knowledge.
521. Awareness.
522. Better decisions.

A Gift Rattling, Receding, Reclaiming

523. A neighbor’s door.
524. Coughs.
525. My morning quiet time.

3 Gifts Quiet

526. Mornings with my coffee and Bible.
527. A 5 minute nap.
528. Kids fast asleep in their rooms.

3 Gifts Funny

529. The sons imitating their father.
530. Excitement over new school bags.
531. My husband’s wit.

Are you in the habit of counting your blessings? I mean, literally counting them 1, 2, 3… Would you consider joining me on this journey? Would you dare to live fully, right where you are?

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Let The Children Come ~ Teach Them God’s Word

So far in this series, we’ve emphasized the importance of praying for our children, how to teach our kids about God and how to encourage them to pray. In today’s post, we look into how we can teach our kids God’s Word, straight from the Bible.

“Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 11:18-19)

Did you catch that? “Teach them to your children” – is that a direct instruction to parents or what?! We’re talking about the Word of God here, the Bible… There’s no tip-toeing around it and passing the buck to our church or the Sunday school. It is up to us parents to teach our kids God’s Word.

A Children’s Bible

It’ll be a worthy investment to buy your child a Bible when he or she is still a toddler. That way, kids learn from a young age the importance of owning a Bible and taking care of it. They could also carry it to church like they see you do. Of course, in our case, our kids had to share one Bible, so they never got to carry it to church. A few tips:

  • Buy an age-appropriate Bible. For toddlers, this would mean a Bible that can withstand a little wear and tear. We received this Bible as a gift from my sister-in-law. It was similar to a board book with stiff pages and had cute pictures. We used that when our kids were smaller and then moved on to this and this.
  • If they are too young to understand the words in the Bible, instead of just reading it to them, use the pictures to explain the story to them.
  • And, instead of just re-telling them the story, let the story point our kids to God. It’s important that the kids learn something about God through the Bible stories.

A simple example: Take the story of the centurion approaching Jesus, asking Him to heal his servant. The takeaway will sound something like this… “Even though Jesus did not go to the centurion’s house and lay His hands on the servant; He still healed him. In the same way, even though we cannot see Jesus; Jesus can still heal you when you’re sick.”

Memorize Scripture

I think we all know that nothing can substitute the pure, undiluted word of God. When we can teach our kids nursery rhymes, why should Bible verses be left behind? Here are a few passages we’ve taught our kids over the past couple of years.

  • Psalm 23
  • John 3:16
  • The Lord’s Prayer
  • Psalm 121 (In Progress)

So, how do you go about teaching your kids to memorize scripture? Here’s what we did:

  • Going at a slow pace, maybe just 1 or 2 verses a month.
  • Explaining the verse in words the kids can understand.
  • Being consistent, teaching them the verse every day if possible.
  • Saying the verse out aloud, a few words at a time and making them repeat it after us.
  • Using hand actions to emphasize the words.
  • Taking some time each month to recap the previous portions of scripture they’ve memorized.
  • Not expecting perfection and prompting them when they forget the verses.

Here are some links to other posts in the blogosphere that talk about teaching our kids to memorize scripture:

  1. A Little R & R: 4 Ways You Can Teach Toddlers God’s Word
  2. Growing Home: Teaching Children to Memorize Scripture
  3. The MOB Society: Hand Movements for Psalm 23

Given that my kids are less than 5 years old, I obviously lack experience in teaching older kids God’s Word. Would you help me and the readers out? Share with us how you’ve been teaching the Bible to your kids.

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Easy Chicken Gravy Recipe

If you’re a regular reader here, you’ve probably noticed the dearth of recipes on my blog. There’s a reason behind this. I’m not a good cook – and no, I’m not saying it to be modest :). I really don’t enjoy cooking, and I cook only to stave off my family’s hunger pangs.

Given that, my recipes tend to be plain, simple and easy to follow. Here’s one such standard recipe (south Indian, I think)… It’s my go-to chicken recipe, one I know will not disappoint my family.

Ingredients:

For the marinade:

  • 1 tablespoon ginger-garlic paste
  • 1/2 teaspoon turmeric powder
  • 1 teaspoon salt

While cooking:

  • 1 Kg chicken (cut into medium pieces)
  • 2 tablespoons oil
  • 1 tablespoon garam masala powder
  • 2 large onions (finely chopped)
  • 200g tomato puree
  • 1 tablespoon ginger-garlic paste
  • 1 sprig curry leaves
  • 1 handful coriander leaves (finely chopped)
  • Salt (to taste)
  • Pepper (to taste)

Directions:

  1. Wash the chicken and mix in the marinade ingredients.
  2. Let the chicken marinate in the fridge for at least 2 hours. {I usually leave it in the freezer until the day I want to cook it}
  3. Heat the oil in a non-stick pot and add the garam masala powder.
  4. Add the onions and fry until they turn golden brown.
  5. Add the ginger-garlic paste and stir for a minute.
  6. Add the tomato puree and mix it around for a minute.
  7. If there is no chilly powder added in your garam masala powder, you may have to add a teaspoon or two of chilly powder {depending on how hot you’d like your chicken}.
  8. Add the marinated chicken (at least partly thawed) and make sure the pieces are all covered in the paste. {Add a bit of water if required}
  9. Add a little salt (depending on your taste buds), cover the pot and let the chicken cook on low heat.
  10. The chicken should be cooked within 30-40 minutes.
  11. Add the curry leaves, coriander leaves and pepper powder; give it one last stir and your chicken gravy is ready!

Well, if you’re done laughing at my obvious ignorance of food blogging terminology; I’d like to recommend to you, a few food bloggers I follow:

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Counting My Blessings: 490 to 510

As our family enters the home stretch of a long drawn sickness, I’ve realized that it’s easier to thank God when body temperatures are low and no one is coughing a fit. But it takes a special kind of grace, to be able to thank God through the coughs and high temperatures. Here I am, thanking God for His grace and strength that carried us through last week.

3 Hard Eucharisteo

490. The sound of my sons coughing.
491. Fever.
492. A trip to the doctor.

3 Gifts in His Word

493. Chosen (I Peter 1:2)
494. Jesus, my living hope (I Peter 1:3)
495. I’m kept by the power of God (I Peter 1:5)

A Gift Scented, Scrawled, Started

496. The kids’ medicines.
497. Temperatures and medication schedules.
498. Late nights.

3 Gifts Drawn

499. The living room curtains.
500. A sigh of relief.
501. A picture.

3 Gifts Paired

502. Clean socks.
503. Salt and pepper.
504. Sunshine and rain.

3 Gifts Shared

505. Responsibility.
506. Concern.
507. A packet of savories.

3 Gifts Ugly-Beautiful

508. Bits of paper scattered on our carpet.
509. 3 pairs of flip-flops strewn around.
510. The sons fighting and then playing together, within minutes.

Are you in the habit of counting your blessings? I mean, literally counting them 1, 2, 3… Would you consider joining me on this journey? Would you dare to live fully, right where you are?

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Let The Children Come ~ Encourage Them To Pray

So far in this series, we’ve emphasized the importance of praying for our children and how to teach them about God. Today’s post is all about encouraging our children to pray on their own.

If we’ve established the habit of praying for our children, next in line is teaching them to do the same. For my husband and I, it started with praying together with the kids. For a while, they were silent spectators; but they soon realized that prayer meant just talking to Jesus, Whom they were well aware of. As parents, all we have to do is be vigilant and look for opportunities to encourage our kids to pray. Here’s what worked for us.

1. Before a meal

I have to give my husband all the credit for teaching our kids to pray before meals. As soon as they could speak, he would pray and ask the kids to repeat the words after him. Eventually, they started praying on their own. But when their meal-time prayers became repetitive, my husband would remind them why we’re thanking God for the food and encouraged them to use different words to convey their gratitude.

2. Before leaving the house

Another habit, again enforced by my husband was praying every time we left the house. Whether we were leaving the house for a social call, the park, church or school, we would pray together and ask for God’s grace and protection on our family. It’s no wonder that now, all the kids want to individually pray before we leave our home; and we have to cut them short if we’re running late.

3. Prayer for physical healing

Whenever a child had an ache or a bruise, my husband or I would hold the child in our arms and pray with him; asking Jesus to heal him. Eventually, the kids started asking us to pray for them every time they had some discomfort; which we gladly did. Over time, we started prompting the kids to ask Jesus for their own healing. Here’s a sample conversation.

Child: Mama, my stomach is paining. Pray and ask Jesus to heal me.
Mother: Baby, you can ask Him yourself? Just talk to Jesus, like you’re talking to me.
Child: Ok.. “Jesus, my stomach is paining.. please heal my stomach. Let the pain go. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!”

When the ache/bruise subsided, we would remind the kids to thank God for their healing; which they were only too glad to do.

4. Family prayer

There’s no better place to teach our kids how to pray than during our family prayers. Find a time that works for your family, when everyone can gather together. For our family, this is just before the kids’ bedtime. We read from the kids’ Bible, sing a few songs and end with prayer.

After several months of hearing us pray, our kids insisted on doing it on their own. They had learnt the semantics of prayer by hearing us pray every night. They usually start their prayers with “Jesus” or “Father” and end with “In Jesus’ Name, Amen”. But none of that matters as long as your child learns to express himself/herself to Jesus in a personal way.

5. Just talking to Jesus

The greatest joy we’ve experienced as parents is to hear our kids praying without any prompting from us. Yes, that might include them asking God for a pool. But it might also include a child gazing up at the sky and saying “Jesus, where are you?” or “Jesus, I want to see you”. And sometimes a more profound “Jesus is opening the clouds and looking at me!”.

Closing thoughts:

  • At times your child may simply not be interested in praying, and that’s ok.
  • If they need to be prompted, you could just ask them what they want to thank Jesus for.
  • There may be days when the kids insist on praying really long prayers; let them :).

Let’s remember to teach our kids to “Pray without ceasing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). As I mentioned in my introductory post, I am learning alongside you. How do you encourage your kids to pray? Would you care to share with us in the comments below?

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The Love & Respect Experience: Book Review

The Love & Respect Experience: A Husband-Friendly Devotional that Wives Truly Love by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is a christian devotional book for married couples. The book comprises of 52 short devotions that aim to help husbands and wives grow in their marriage. The inspiration behind the book is this verse:

“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

The premise is that husbands need their wives to show them respect, as much as wives need their husband to show them love. This book teaches couples how to move on from the Crazy Cycle {without love, she reacts without respect; without respect, he reacts without love} and lean towards the Energizing Cycle {his love motivates her respect; her respect motivates his love}. The ultimate goal however, is to reach the Rewarded Cycle {he loves regardless of her respect; she respects regardless of his love}.

My husband who doesn’t particularly like reading, was actually interested in reading this book with me. Each devotion starts with a verse, explains a unique aspect of the love and respect concept, highlights one major insight from the chapter, guides the reader in a prayer and finishes off with an action item.

Each chapter also has a set of discussion questions to help the reader personalize what he/she just read. The devotions are light, which is why they cannot replace your daily Bible study.

This book is a good read if you’re genuinely interested in improving your marriage. However, if you’ve perused other Love & Respect resources, this book may seem a bit redundant. If you’re curious to know how the biblical concept of love and respect can improve your marriage, I’d recommend you pick up a copy. And maybe… just maybe, your husband might be interested in reading it along with you :)!

Disclosure: I received a free Kindle version of this book from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are entirely my own.

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Counting My Blessings: 469 to 489

As sickness threatens to do us in, I plod on… continuing on my quest to find 1000 things I’m grateful to God for.

A Gift Cool, Warm, Sun-Soaked

469. A light morning breeze.
470. Breakfast.
471. Sunlight streaming through the kitchen window onto Judah.

3 Gifts Autumn

472. Light rains.
473. Cooler evenings.
474. Jackets and caps.

3 Gifts Growing

475. 3 pairs of feet.
476. My Kindle library.
477. My patience :).

3 Gifts Given

478. Fever medication for Jon.
479. Paints for the kids.
480. Hot water for the boys.

A Gift Made, Masked, Marveled

481. A Lego excavator.
482. Jon tying a handkerchief across his face and pretending to be a doctor.
483. The fact that we survived without a washing machine for an entire week.

3 Gifts Framed

484. A mirror.
485. Spectacles.
486. A verse in our living room.

3 Gifts Moving

487. “Cars”, the movie on TV.
488. Clothes drying on the line.
489. Jason & Judah walking to the school bus with their father.

Are you in the habit of counting your blessings? I mean, literally counting them 1, 2, 3… Would you consider joining me on this journey? Would you dare to live fully, right where you are?

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Five Minute Friday: Graceful

Five Minute Friday

Graceful

Monday’s child is fair of face,
Tuesday’s child is full of grace…

I remember reading this back when I was a kid; wishing I was born on a Tuesday, so I’d be full of grace. Wishful thinking for a girl who’s been clumsy and awkward all her life. I am not graceful, and I’ve finally learnt to accept that.

What I want to be instead, is gracious, like Jesus. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that three people in our family (me, my second born and my mother-in-law) have names that directly or indiectly mean “God is Gracious”.

Having been a recipient of God’s immeasurable grace all my life, isn’t it time for me to give back? Can I be kind, compassionate, courteous and sympathetic to those around me? I want to live a life that oozes grace, that those who see it will glorify God. Easy to say, not so easy to follow, right?

I’m learning, everyday how to be more Christlike. And I fail! every. single. day. After spending an entire month learning to be gentle with my kids, I found myself yelling at them in anger just this morning. I need grace, just like you do.

But just because we’re constantly failing, doesn’t mean we give up or give in to our weaknesses. We will try again… and again… tomorrow, today, the next hour, the next minute… And each time we dust ourselves off and attempt to imitate Christ yet again, we realize we are one step closer to being gracious like Him.

What comes to your mind, when you think of the word “Graceful”?

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Top 3 Thursday – Edition #5

Here are some posts that have inspired me over the past week. Would you click through and check out these lovely blogs?

1. How Do You Discipline Your Kids @ Women Living Well {Valuable Biblical tips to effectively discipline our children when they do something wrong.}

2. Colossians Bible Study @ Good Morning Girls {If you struggle with consistency in your daily Bible reading, Subscribe and Sign up for this Bible study that will keep you accountable. The Bible study starts September 17th, so you may want to enroll right away!}

3. When Our Feelings Don’t Tell The Truth @ Roo Mag {We’ve all been there… Read on to find out how we can overcome them.}

Did you read or write an encouraging blog post during the week? Share the link in the comments below, I’d love to check it out!

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